Today started out normal enough. I woke up around 2:00pm, stumbled into the bathroom and turned on the light. Disoriented and longing for more sleep, I turned on the water to the shower and didn't quite process what happened next. I knew, intuitively, that something was wrong but I couldn't register exactly what it was. I pushed on with my early morning shower plans, since I had a big day ahead of me. There was the 3:00 meeting which I wanted to be clear-headed for, then a little bit of down time for writing my set, then another brief meeting, run out to my son's basketball game, and keep heading south for the show at the club downtown. My little downtime was not sufficient for writing a set of new material, but it would have to do, since there were other more pressing things to take care of today. I disrobed what little was left, and stepped into a dry shower. Baffled, I reached to turn the water on, only to find it was. You know that sinking feeling that hits you when you remember the thing that you kept meaning to do, but forgot, and now it's too late? That sensation that runs through your body like cold water mixed with a splash of self-loathing and regret? Yeah, THAT, was the only thing showering me this morning. Has it been that long since I paid the water bill? Apparently. What's better is that every minute of the rest of the afternoon, I kept forgetting that the water was off, so I started my routine sans douche, only to realize that the deposit I had made in the toilet would be there for awhile, my hands would bear the evidence, and my dishes, drinks and oral hygiene would only serve as painful reminders of both my waterlessness and poor short term memory.
It takes way too long to realize that the remedy for my situation has to be swift, since the rest of the day is already packed. I rushed out the door, thirsty, unclean and generally malodorous. Lucky for me, I was headed to the city utilities office, so I fit in pretty well. Naturally, the line wrapped around the waiting area and backed up to the entrance doors. Even worse, the line wasn't moving a bit. I stood in line, like so many others, losing patience. Some left, which was the only reason the line moved at all. Meanwhile, someone somewhere was having a great, late afternoon lunch or perhaps a delightful conversation at the office water cooler rather than working at the front desk. I've never understood the purpose of this desk. Apparently, we have to wait in line -to tell someone what we need- who can do nothing about it. It is her job to listen and ask lots of questions, then promptly tell us to sit down and wait for someone else to help us. There were a handful of these "someone elses" sitting at their desks with nothing to do, because the useless woman at the desk was not there to tell people she can't help them. After several people began yelling, one of the genius someones decided perhaps she could do the thing she would have done if the woman was there to tell her to do it, and she began to help the people waiting in line. Glorious.
Excruciating as it was, my two and a half minute task was handled in under an hour and I was off to my 3:00 meeting with the hope that at some point I might get to have a shower before show time.
Meeting went well, and I rushed home to wait for the next brief meeting, which was coming to my apartment. 15 minutes late, but otherwise the second meeting went well. Money was handed to me, which always lifts my spirits. By the time the water was back on I had no time for a shower, lest I miss my son's game. So off I went, hastily grabbing my notebook and a few bits I had started while pacing around the apartment waiting. I caught just a few shots, gave a high five and a few congratulatory hollers before I had to leave the game, waiting until the last possible moment to run into the club for the pre-show meeting.
Typically I have an idea of jokes I want to try out, usually arranged in some order that makes sense, so that my set can flow naturally. Tonight, I had just a few jokes, not nearly enough, and none of it had any flow to it. By this point, it really should have been memorized well enough to deliver naturally. Instead, it is scribbled onto a notepad which I bring on stage with me for the inevitable moment I freeze. It happens, as I expected, but not until the very last joke. I had prepped the audience for the first of two successive punch lines, but realized that the second would not have impact because I had failed to set up the (callback) joke earlier in the set. It was too late. My big ender was going to fall flat. I paused to read my notes, hoping there was something I could pull out to close instead. Nothing. I put my energy into the last punch, impersonating a fictitious bank teller-from-the-future with all the enthusiasm I could muster, and said my good-byes.
It was a contest night and I had decided to cancel my set twice already, then changed my mind. With all the turmoil today, it just didn't make sense to spend the time and gas going to a club that wasn't going to pay me to deliver a set I hadn't prepared. They called my name to mediocre applause and, moments later, announced it again as a finalist. Some of the comics sharing the stage with me tonight are guys (and a girl) I have watched many times over. Respected, trusted, and extremely talented. It is an honor just to be on the stage with them, but to be singled out among them, really surprised me. My first thought was, O crap, I've got to clear my schedule next week. I had decided to focus on another show coming up, and not ask my friends to come out to another show, since so many are planning to attend the "big one" next week at the casino. Now, the stakes are raised and I've got the Finals, just two days before the big casino show, and I have no idea how I even landed this opportunity. Glorious.
Wednesday, April 16, 2014
Monday, March 24, 2014
Pretends
Funny thing is, just this time yesterday, I received a congratulatory email that I have been casted in a pilot for a TV show based in Indianapolis. Unlike the Irish lottery emails that congratulate me, I actually had heard of this project before, because I did actually audition for it last week. This was my first audition for any acting gig since high school. I had planned on not getting the part. In fact, I have set up several such auditions just simply to practice and meet people in the industry. It is a funny and dangerous thing to expect things to not work out, I am learning. How to gracefully decline? I had to ask some friends for help on this one. Meanwhile I seem to be burning bridges before I knew I'd built them. Note to self; don't audition for stuff you can't/don't want to do.
The crux of the problem is this; The gig was acting, which is something I at least would like to try. But it was not the kind of project that I want to be involved in. I could guess from the name that the series was going to deal with material that is beyond my moral boundaries. Not wanting to jump to conclusions, or be judgemental, I decided to go through with the audition. The audition script, in fact, was not objectionable. The sight-reading script, however, was very objectionable and, though my character was not reading any of those lines, I still would not want to be part of the project. No worries, I thought. I'm an amateur and they won't want to cast me anyway. WRONG.
I am content to live without success in acting, comedy, or any pursuit for that matter. I am not content to live a life that is not sincere and true to myself. I do not want to be someone else just for a gig. I would rather be rejected because of who I am, than have success for being who I am not. Sounds simple, but in this industry it is easy to sell out. After all, acting is about pretending to be someone else. Once again, I find myself asking questions I cannot answer and pondering the complexities of a world I do not understand.
The crux of the problem is this; The gig was acting, which is something I at least would like to try. But it was not the kind of project that I want to be involved in. I could guess from the name that the series was going to deal with material that is beyond my moral boundaries. Not wanting to jump to conclusions, or be judgemental, I decided to go through with the audition. The audition script, in fact, was not objectionable. The sight-reading script, however, was very objectionable and, though my character was not reading any of those lines, I still would not want to be part of the project. No worries, I thought. I'm an amateur and they won't want to cast me anyway. WRONG.
I am content to live without success in acting, comedy, or any pursuit for that matter. I am not content to live a life that is not sincere and true to myself. I do not want to be someone else just for a gig. I would rather be rejected because of who I am, than have success for being who I am not. Sounds simple, but in this industry it is easy to sell out. After all, acting is about pretending to be someone else. Once again, I find myself asking questions I cannot answer and pondering the complexities of a world I do not understand.
Thursday, March 6, 2014
Online Date
I've recently begun a social experiment* in which I am the lab rat. I set out on this adventure to learn a thing or two about love, life, and women. Unfortunately, I think I may have lost more than I've found along the way. Take, for example, the awkward first meeting, after weeks of chatting, texting and phone calls. There she was, lost and alone crossing the street in front of the restaurant where I had arranged for us to meet. I shot a glance of recognition her way, hoping to have it returned, but instead, as she turned her head toward me, I could see that she was on the phone. Since my phone was in my pocket, distinctly NOT ringing, I knew right away she wasn't on the phone with me. We paused together as our trajectories converged and shared a moment of not talking to one another. Things were off to a bizarre start already. As I stood there, I expected to hear an excited dismissal of the phone conversation. Something like "Oh my gosh, here's here and he DOES look just like a younger Brad Pitt! Girl! He's even hotter than I expected!!! I gotta go, I'll call you when we're done!" with girlish squeals exchanged in the process. Nope.
Instead what I heard was something much more serious, "Well you know better than that and you've going to have to fix it when Mommy gets home. And you better be in a good mood too, or you'll have even more..."
"Hey!" I said, making sure she knew without me saying that I'm youngbradpitt1979 from the online dating site that had arranged to meet her here. She nodded at me and diverted her eyes, as if the silence was not enough disengagement. We stood awkwardly on the street in front of the restaurant. Although I don't think she was aware of the awkwardness because she was wrapped up in something stupid her little Johnny did moments earlier from an undisclosed location. I know those moments. Two people both need your attention at the same time. It is frustrating. The honk of a horn breaks the mood as I realized that we were still standing in the middle of the road.
"How about we go inside?" I offer in a stroke of pure genius. I reached past her to pull open the door only to find it was a push-open door. Now I am nothing more than an obstacle between her and the restaurant, with my pride, chivalry, and center-of-gravity far behind me.
"Ok honey, love you, bye." And just like that the date, for her, begins.
"Hi!"
"Hi, you must be Jen."
"Nope." My hunger pangs quickly turn into a knot of embarrassment in my stomach and I reach back to push open the door that has betrayed me once already. It is unmoved. So, too, is her face as she gazes into my eyes. She does kind of look like an older Tonya Harding, I think to myself. I looked at her one last time, my eyebrows clenched in painful confusion, when I remembered our running joke about fake names. Smiles washed over our faces and we looked into the crowded restaurant for a place to sit. It begins.
*To protect the image of the writer and other characters in this story, and for the sake of humorous/creative license, less than half of the details in this post are true.
Instead what I heard was something much more serious, "Well you know better than that and you've going to have to fix it when Mommy gets home. And you better be in a good mood too, or you'll have even more..."
"Hey!" I said, making sure she knew without me saying that I'm youngbradpitt1979 from the online dating site that had arranged to meet her here. She nodded at me and diverted her eyes, as if the silence was not enough disengagement. We stood awkwardly on the street in front of the restaurant. Although I don't think she was aware of the awkwardness because she was wrapped up in something stupid her little Johnny did moments earlier from an undisclosed location. I know those moments. Two people both need your attention at the same time. It is frustrating. The honk of a horn breaks the mood as I realized that we were still standing in the middle of the road.
"How about we go inside?" I offer in a stroke of pure genius. I reached past her to pull open the door only to find it was a push-open door. Now I am nothing more than an obstacle between her and the restaurant, with my pride, chivalry, and center-of-gravity far behind me.
"Ok honey, love you, bye." And just like that the date, for her, begins.
"Hi!"
"Hi, you must be Jen."
"Nope." My hunger pangs quickly turn into a knot of embarrassment in my stomach and I reach back to push open the door that has betrayed me once already. It is unmoved. So, too, is her face as she gazes into my eyes. She does kind of look like an older Tonya Harding, I think to myself. I looked at her one last time, my eyebrows clenched in painful confusion, when I remembered our running joke about fake names. Smiles washed over our faces and we looked into the crowded restaurant for a place to sit. It begins.
*To protect the image of the writer and other characters in this story, and for the sake of humorous/creative license, less than half of the details in this post are true.
Tacos and conversation
This wasn't my first plan. I gave her the address to a bowling alley across the street, where I figured we could talk, bowl and grab whatever food they served in the thingie. If parking hadn't been so hard to find, I would have never even seen the Mexican restaurant. But after parking there, and staring inside, I began to crave Mexican food. Even despite the crowd and the inevitable wait for a table, I started to change my mind about the entire evening plans. Mexican it is!
We stared each other across the table with an new element in our relationship -flesh. I can see her, she can see me. We can hear clearer, touch, laugh, nod -all in real time. It was great, just like real life! All my frustrations with the online crap were over and this was just like a real date. Then the questions creep up. Is this the kind of girl I would have picked out for myself in person? Does she live up to the exceptionally high standards of quality that I expect? I liked her pictures, and the texting went well. Now here we are at some Mexican place on a cold Friday night, and I haven't really satisfied the first criteria of my typical dating checklist. I gotta throw this thing out. Of course she's good enough. But like a good meal I need to whet my appetite. I need a few moments to think it through, to anticipate.
We both ordered pork tacos. They were terrible. The conversation was informative, but not amazing. She declined a ride to her car several blocks away. If it was my sister I would have told her not to get in the car with anyone she met online either. It caught me off guard but didn't ruin anything for me. We walked a little while in the general direction of her car and then stopped for a moment of good-byes. Nothing short of ordinary. "We should do this again."
"Definitely"
"Yeah, when are you free?"
"Yeah, I don't really know. But we should definitely hang out."
"Well, we'll talk."
"Yeah, oh, definitely."
I'm not sure what the rule is here, but I think either the second or third time "definitely" is used in the answer to the same question, it starts to mean the opposite. My heart was not broken. If it works, great. If not, that's fine. I still haven't told her my name.
We stared each other across the table with an new element in our relationship -flesh. I can see her, she can see me. We can hear clearer, touch, laugh, nod -all in real time. It was great, just like real life! All my frustrations with the online crap were over and this was just like a real date. Then the questions creep up. Is this the kind of girl I would have picked out for myself in person? Does she live up to the exceptionally high standards of quality that I expect? I liked her pictures, and the texting went well. Now here we are at some Mexican place on a cold Friday night, and I haven't really satisfied the first criteria of my typical dating checklist. I gotta throw this thing out. Of course she's good enough. But like a good meal I need to whet my appetite. I need a few moments to think it through, to anticipate.
We both ordered pork tacos. They were terrible. The conversation was informative, but not amazing. She declined a ride to her car several blocks away. If it was my sister I would have told her not to get in the car with anyone she met online either. It caught me off guard but didn't ruin anything for me. We walked a little while in the general direction of her car and then stopped for a moment of good-byes. Nothing short of ordinary. "We should do this again."
"Definitely"
"Yeah, when are you free?"
"Yeah, I don't really know. But we should definitely hang out."
"Well, we'll talk."
"Yeah, oh, definitely."
I'm not sure what the rule is here, but I think either the second or third time "definitely" is used in the answer to the same question, it starts to mean the opposite. My heart was not broken. If it works, great. If not, that's fine. I still haven't told her my name.
Tuesday, February 25, 2014
Fresh Challenge PART TWO
So along with the aforementioned week of writing and delivering an entirely new set, I've also had some great encounters to help me find my "voice." I've put some thought into this, but still it eludes me. I am searching for my center; the place from which I write my jokes and share my life. They say it takes about 10 years in this field to find your voice. I am anxious to get to that point, and haven't even put in 10 months yet!
This week I also began making plans to attend the Christian Comedy Association conference and have connected with many of its members through social media. One member posed the question which ignited a lengthy discussion that continues even now. On the forum he asked if it is acceptable for a Christian comedian to do shows in clubs, bars, or any other venue sharing a stage with comedians who use vulgar language and "blue material." Funny question, since my only stage time has consisted of exactly these kinds of venues and I haven't been nearly as disturbed by it as others have. Their objections included shaming or tarnishing the image of Christ, exposure to temptation, leading people astray, and, my personal favorite, contributing to the sale of alcohol.
Christ was an instigator and an agitator to the religious people, the people of power, and those in high regard. He was a friend to the whores, tax-collectors and sailors of His day. He appeared to have little concern for protecting His image or avoiding association with certain people or places. And at His first recorded party, he didn't sell alcohol, or even contribute to the sale of alcohol - He made it and gave it away. He called out hypocrisy often and confronted distorted logic (often religiosity) with truth. And He often accepted invitations from the dirtiest kind of people. And for the record, he extended invitations right back to them.
So, I wish I was perfect and could do it just like Him, but I cannot. I'm not entirely sure if that means I should give up or try harder. But, then again, the bar is set and the ultimate victory is already determined, so it seems that success or failure is irrelevant. I like this side of Him and it seems to be part of the voice I am after. If this week's conversations, self-condemnation, and comedic aspirations are any indication -the voice I aspire to have will be a risk, particularly as a "Christian Comedian." It could offend the best kind of people, and alienate me from the rest. But I am not drawn to a style of humor that degrades people, or deals lightly with contradiction. I want to confront our way of thinking with the Truth, without ever being safe or having all the answers (because I can't). I want to share my fallen journey to highlight my risen Saviour. And I want to be as honest, real and relate-able as the dirtiest, raunchiest comic on the stage. Will I ever figure out how to do it? God help me!
This week I also began making plans to attend the Christian Comedy Association conference and have connected with many of its members through social media. One member posed the question which ignited a lengthy discussion that continues even now. On the forum he asked if it is acceptable for a Christian comedian to do shows in clubs, bars, or any other venue sharing a stage with comedians who use vulgar language and "blue material." Funny question, since my only stage time has consisted of exactly these kinds of venues and I haven't been nearly as disturbed by it as others have. Their objections included shaming or tarnishing the image of Christ, exposure to temptation, leading people astray, and, my personal favorite, contributing to the sale of alcohol.
Christ was an instigator and an agitator to the religious people, the people of power, and those in high regard. He was a friend to the whores, tax-collectors and sailors of His day. He appeared to have little concern for protecting His image or avoiding association with certain people or places. And at His first recorded party, he didn't sell alcohol, or even contribute to the sale of alcohol - He made it and gave it away. He called out hypocrisy often and confronted distorted logic (often religiosity) with truth. And He often accepted invitations from the dirtiest kind of people. And for the record, he extended invitations right back to them.
So, I wish I was perfect and could do it just like Him, but I cannot. I'm not entirely sure if that means I should give up or try harder. But, then again, the bar is set and the ultimate victory is already determined, so it seems that success or failure is irrelevant. I like this side of Him and it seems to be part of the voice I am after. If this week's conversations, self-condemnation, and comedic aspirations are any indication -the voice I aspire to have will be a risk, particularly as a "Christian Comedian." It could offend the best kind of people, and alienate me from the rest. But I am not drawn to a style of humor that degrades people, or deals lightly with contradiction. I want to confront our way of thinking with the Truth, without ever being safe or having all the answers (because I can't). I want to share my fallen journey to highlight my risen Saviour. And I want to be as honest, real and relate-able as the dirtiest, raunchiest comic on the stage. Will I ever figure out how to do it? God help me!
Friday, February 21, 2014
Fresh Challenge PART ONE
It's been a week of fresh ideas, and stirring up some old. Last night, I challenged myself to bring 100% new material to the stage for Morty's "Great Indiana Mic Off." I enjoyed the challenge, but wish I had put more time into it. Firstly, having "scripted" my entire set on paper and them promptly NOT memorizing it, was a mistake. Of course, if I had taken the time to commit it to memory better, I probably would have tossed out most of the material. HERE is where the fresh ideas come in...
I wasn't displeased because it didn't get the laughs I wanted. I was displeased because I was not happy with the content. It crossed some subtle lines that I didn't want to cross, relying on negativity and material that I should have handled more cleverly. On the bright side, it was truthful; an element that makes comedy a holy temple for me. Comedy can't avoid truth. It can satire, exaggerate, juxtapose and illuminate it, but comedy cannot and does not hide from truth. Rather, it relies on it. The magic, for me, is to use truth to amuse and illuminate. There are many truths out there, and the fact is they don't always follow our sense of logic. When we have to confront the contradictions of truth with logic, truth always wins and we walk away changed and challenged. This is my passion for humor, because it has such a great potential to effect us.
If I had memorized my set and delivered it flawlessly, it still would have been sub-par and I still would be disappointed. If the crowd had laughed their brains out, it still would not have been the kind of set I want to be known for. So, what do I do? After the show I had a great conversation with the evening's headliner, an absolutely hilarious comic whose humor and lifestyle is notably different from my own, but whose mastery of the craft is one I admire. His influence was such that I could find myself laughing and relating to experiences I have not had, thoughts that were not mine, and situations and moral decisions I have not encountered. A good comic can do this, and you walk away from his show feeling like you've walked a mile or two in his shoes, and enjoyed it immensely. You take a look at life through his eyes (or hers) and challenge some of your own point of view. So there is where the lesson came from last night. Not just being disappointed with my own material, but to be able to appreciate another comic's talent without embracing his material. After all the truth we bring to the set comes from our own perspective. I am constantly being pulled back to my own center, which is as unique as it is difficult to find. My challenge is to go there and stay there.
I wasn't displeased because it didn't get the laughs I wanted. I was displeased because I was not happy with the content. It crossed some subtle lines that I didn't want to cross, relying on negativity and material that I should have handled more cleverly. On the bright side, it was truthful; an element that makes comedy a holy temple for me. Comedy can't avoid truth. It can satire, exaggerate, juxtapose and illuminate it, but comedy cannot and does not hide from truth. Rather, it relies on it. The magic, for me, is to use truth to amuse and illuminate. There are many truths out there, and the fact is they don't always follow our sense of logic. When we have to confront the contradictions of truth with logic, truth always wins and we walk away changed and challenged. This is my passion for humor, because it has such a great potential to effect us.
If I had memorized my set and delivered it flawlessly, it still would have been sub-par and I still would be disappointed. If the crowd had laughed their brains out, it still would not have been the kind of set I want to be known for. So, what do I do? After the show I had a great conversation with the evening's headliner, an absolutely hilarious comic whose humor and lifestyle is notably different from my own, but whose mastery of the craft is one I admire. His influence was such that I could find myself laughing and relating to experiences I have not had, thoughts that were not mine, and situations and moral decisions I have not encountered. A good comic can do this, and you walk away from his show feeling like you've walked a mile or two in his shoes, and enjoyed it immensely. You take a look at life through his eyes (or hers) and challenge some of your own point of view. So there is where the lesson came from last night. Not just being disappointed with my own material, but to be able to appreciate another comic's talent without embracing his material. After all the truth we bring to the set comes from our own perspective. I am constantly being pulled back to my own center, which is as unique as it is difficult to find. My challenge is to go there and stay there.
Monday, February 10, 2014
Testing
So, I am trying to get more connected with the world. Set-up a fancy Twitter account, Facebook Fan Page, and a really cheap Website, which all allegedly connect to each other (and my YouTube channel) and possibly make me look much busier than I really am. So, smooth sailing from here, right? We will see about that! In the meantime, if you get bored and want to follow me, by all means do so.
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